At the seafront. (A toddler with a dodgy latch!)

This is us, at the seafront (Aberavon) last Friday evening.

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Ethan is almost 2 now (1 month tomorrow – eek!), and sometimes he gets very lazy when latching to feed, which means it can hurt a bit when I’m feeding him. We’re working on getting a better, deeper latch to make it more pleasant for the both of us. I’ll let you know how we get on.

Happy breastfeeding!

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At night.

Ethan is now 22 months (and 9 days) old. Every night when I am here (I work 2 nights a week), I feed him to sleep. Every night.

Here we are tonight:

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Every night, if he wakes, I feed him back to sleep, in my (and my other half’s) bed.

In all of his 22 months so far, Ethan has never ever been left to cry alone without comfort. And he never will be.

We never really decided to not let him cry. We followed our instincts. From when he was born, if he cried, every instinct in me tingled to respond to him and solve whatever was wrong. It physically hurt me to hear him cry. So he was never left to cry alone.

As he got older (6 months? Absolutely geriatric!), we were told we were spoiling him, giving in, making a rod for our own back, why wouldn’t we just leave him cry?! That’s around the time I started doubting our instincts (no idea why, we were perfectly happy until other people decided to give their opinions) and started researching.

And you know what? It’s normal. It is fundamentally biologically normal to respond to your baby/toddler/child, and adjust your response to their needs at that particular time. Babies expect this. They expect to be close to you (they have been for 9 months, it’s all they know!), they expect you to respond when they need you.

Babies, regardless of where they’re born, are still cave babies. They have the same reflexes and instincts human babies have for thousands of years. That instinct is to survive. If cave babies were left alone, they’d be eaten by a sabre toothed tiger. If they’re alone, they cry, when they cry alone, their stress hormone levels rise, which causes neurological changes. It messes with their attachment and trust with caregivers.

But, I hear you cry, my friend/auntie/cousin left her baby to cry and they learned to sleep through.
My answer – think back to those cave babies. They cry, no one comes. If no one comes after a while, are they better off –
a) keeping crying, keeping expending energy and possibly attracting a predator
Or b) shutting up, saving energy, not attracting the attention of a hungry wolf.
The answer’s obvious. You’d be quiet. However, the stress levels in the now silent baby’s brain is still raised. They’re still stressed. Distressed.

And that is why I will always respond to my child’s needs, whether he’s 22 hours, days, months or years old. Children are blessings, not inconveniences to be controlled.

Costa Fforestfach

Today, we went shopping. Ethan napped in the car and I managed to get him into the sling without waking him (woohoo!). He woke just before we went to the coffee shop for lunch, and of course wanted some boob before his toasted sandwich. He’s 20 months now, and eats a huge amount of food, alongside breastfeeds whenever he wants

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At the Zoo, Tenby

On an unexpected sunny day, we were both luckily off work, so we decided to take a trip to Manor House Wildlife Park in Tenby.

It was a lovely day, the wildlife park is brilliant and the animals have so much space.

Obviously, Ethan (now 19 months – where did the time go?!) wanted some boob as we were waiting for food in the restaurant, so here we are 🙂

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Cardiff Half Marathon

On Sunday October 6th, Oliver ran Cardiff Half Marathon to raise money for Chester Milk Bank, which collects, screens and distributes donated breast milk to babies who need it. Donated milk saves the lives of babies. I donated to the milk bank myself.

While he was running, I was sat on the base of a statue in the middle of the green outside Cardiff museum. Naturally, Ethan wanted feeding, so here we are…

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And here’s Oliver after he’d finished (in 1 hour 53 minutes!). We’re super super proud of him 🙂

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Charity Walk in the Park

We took part in Subway’s Helping Hearts 5km walk around Bute Park, Cardiff on Sunday 11th August, which also happened to be Ethan’s 13-month birthday!

We managed it in 1 hour and 2 minutes, which isn’t bad with a baby! We had multiple stops to pick up Ethan’s hat every time he threw it off, and he swapped a few times between his little bike and the sling.

Here we are on the da

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